INBUILT INSECURITIES

 Insecurity refers to anxiety, uncertainty, or a lack of confidence or assurance in oneself or a situation. In today's world, we have become extremely dependent on external validation and assurance. We often give the key to our emotions to other people. This not only gives us self-doubt but also makes us feel vulnerable about ourselves. External validation basically means depending on superficial means to have a sense of security. We often let other people in our life have the authority to make us feel bad about ourselves which not only affects us mentally but also emotionally. 

It's normal to feel good about yourself when someone compliments you, but that doesn't really mean that you should be depending on anyone else in order to feel better about yourself. If we look deeper into this matter then it's not us, it's the people around us who make us feel that we can't be worthy enough or there's something in us that needs to be fixed. However, what needs to be fixed is inside us, not peripheral. From being a child we've always heard things about our appearance and external beauty, from being compared to other people to getting solutions for our so-called beauty problems. 

We don't even realize how problematic our behavior and mindset are, the moment we meet someone the first thing we notice is how they look, how much weight they've gained or lost, what brand are they wearing, is there any acne or pimple visible, have they gotten tanned, is there any signs of hair loss, and all the other superficial things. But in this race of always looking better than someone else we often miss the joy of getting ready for ourselves. We think that maybe our partner didn't compliment so there might be something wrong with how we look. 

What we don't realize is that this is a vicious cycle of extrinsic confirmation that we think is necessary to hear for us all the time, which is not the case, peace and gratification only comes from within. Someone might validate us for once, but to experience lifelong confidence and assurance in who we are it is extremely important to love ourselves for who we are and always remember that you are a separate legal entity, and you don't need anyone or anything to have certainty in yourself.       

STOP COMPARING AND START LIVING